That’s the Chinese character for “good”. It’s actually made up of two characters, the left half is the character for “female”, and the right half is the character for “male”. Female + Male = Good. You know what that reminds me of….
So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them …God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. – Genesis 1:27, 31
From Genesis 2 we read how God saw it was not good for man to be alone so He put him to sleep and took a rib from which He formed woman. The Hebrew translation actually refers to the “rib” as “the man’s side”…or HALF of him…from which woman was formed. Both were formed in God’s likeness…male and female. Both were to reflect His glory. And when the halves came together in marriage, it was GOOD because the fullness of God’s glory could be reflected together. It’s not as though singleness is bad or that you’re only half a person if single! It takes two people fully living for God to make a solid unit in marriage. Tim and Kathy Keller, in their book The Meaning of Marriage, says this:
What, then, is marriage for? It is for helping each other become our future glory-selves, the new creation God will eventually make us. The common horizon husband and wife look toward is the Throne, and the holy, spotless, and blameless nature we will have…
Romance, sex, laughter, and plain fun are by-products of this process of sanctification, refinement, glorification. Those things are important, but they can’t keep the marriage going through years and years of ordinary life. What keeps the marriage going is your commitment to your spouse’s holiness. You’re committed to his or her beauty. You’re committed to his greatness and perfection. You’re committed to her honesty and passion for the things of God. That’s your job as a spouse. Any lesser goal than that, any smaller purpose, and you’re just playing at being married.
Hmm….I had to do some self reflection.
If that is what marriage is supposed to be, are you in a position to do it well? Do you know what personal holiness is or what it takes? Are you personally in the process of being sanctified through faith in Christ? Refined? Glorified? Can you fully encourage your spouse/future spouse to be more the person God made him or her to be? Do you have access to the strength to perservere in doing so? Are you praying for your spouse? Are you praying for yourself to be the spouse your partner needs?
Because, everything God made “WAS very good”…however we have since took things into our own hands and have walked in ignorance or outright disobedience to what God has lovingly outlined as GOOD. (Good not just for us, but for everyone we influence, and even for the environment.) And so, the consequences surround us.
It may be a bit of a stretch, but I believe we have to start with getting into a right relationship with God. When we are, and then build a right relationship with our husband or wife, who is also walking rightly with God…then our unit of society as a married couple and future family has a chance to fully live out the good that God meant for us to do on Earth. That would be very good.