An article came out recently on how the idealise notion of romance is actually the biggest enemy to long lasting relationships. Timely considering the frenzy around Valentine’s Day. Is love shown through how much money you spend? I say no, love is shown through cleaning up after each other, through offering a massage even though you really want one, and through taking care of an anticipated need even before he/she expresses it. Soulmates aren’t born, they’re made…starting with the daily decision to be one to the person you’ve committed your life to.
So what are we doing this Valentine’s Day? Nothing actually.
Skywalker has to work a little later. I’ll make dinner…maybe vegetarian to keep with our eating goal of reducing our meat intake. Maybe we’ll go out for a movie, but if it’s pretty nuts out, maybe we’ll stay in. I’d much rather have a special night out with the person I love because he’s the person I love than to be pulled into the marketing that THIS is the day to show you love him/her.
I’ve actually told Skywalker that he should never buy me any combination of red roses, chocolates or stuffed animals for Valentine’s, anniversaries or birthdays. We should know what the person we love actually loves to receive (consider the five love languages) and not just get something because you’re “supposed” to get that. But that’s just my opinion.
Aight…Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!